Culture and
Tradition
l Many grandparents have strong, traditional cultural ties to their heritage. They may find that even though their children were raised in a bicultural household, their grandchildren were not. Grandparents should be aware that their grandchildren's background may be different. They may not know about long-standing family cultures and traditions. For instance, grandparents may have a bilingual household, and the grandchildren have been mainstreamed into speaking only English.
l The hairstyles, dress and language of today's children and teenagers might try the patience of traditional adults. It is important for grandparents to be sensitive to their grandchildren's need to look, dress and

Setting Limits:
l Start with only a few rules. The more rules you have, the harder it will be for your grandchildren to remember them.
l Be sure you know why you are saying no. Explain your reasons for saying no. Be sure your grandchildren understand your reasons.
l Give kids a voice. Kids need a voice in setting limits. They need a chance to tell you what they think and feel. Even a child of 5 or 6 can talk with you and help you set fair limits. When kids help you make rules, they are more likely to obey them.
l Say what you mean. Be very clear about your limits.

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